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Sunday, August 31, 2014

Be You

When I was a kid, I was kind of a misfit (I know, you're all REALLY surprised). I wasn't in the popular crowd at my elementary school, and I especially wasn't when we moved to a new school when I was 9. I had about 1 friend, and when that friend left, I turned to my next door neighbor. Then she moved away. I didn't fit in with my ward. I thought that maybe if I was different, then I'd have some more friends. 
In 9th grade I finally got the friends that I wanted. But, not all of my new social group liked me the way that I was. I didn't change to gain their approval, not because I didn't want to, but because I'm a horrible actress. I couldn't act like I thought they wanted me to without slipping up and letting the real me through. 
If I've learned one thing, I've learned that's ok. 
I am not like the popular crowd. I don't go out all the time. I don't really dress up often (I usually wear a t shirt and sweats, jeans if I'm going to work.) I don't usually wear make up. I don't make friends easily.
But the friends I make, I stick by. And I like who I am. If there's one thing that my Mom taught me and taught me well, it's that my own opinion of me matters more than others' opinions of me.
The reason that I don't dress up all the time, or wear make up might surprise you. It is partially because I'm lazy and it's a whole lot easier to do nothing, but that isn't the main reason. The main reason is because I don't want that to define me. I love clothes, but that doesn't really make me any different than if I were wearing sweats. I don't wear make up because I don't want to feel like I need make up to be beautiful.
I won't lie, it hasn't been an easy road. I don't always have a ton of friends, and people don't just embrace me because I am me. But the people that have stuck by me are worth having. My best boyfriend that I ever had didn't care if I didn't wear any make up, he thought that I was beautiful anyway. He would show me off like I was a beauty queen even when I wore sweats.
Those are the kind of people you want in your life, not the people that only think you're awesome if you're all made up. Or, if you have the nicest clothes.
Whatever you like. Whoever you are. However you are.
You're not alone. There are people who will like you just the way you are. You don't have to please anyone but you! Not that you shouldn't care about other people's feelings, you should, but you shouldn't necessarily care what they think of you. Because someone out there thinks you're awesome. If all the groups of nerds out there don't prove that you can be anything you want and still have people that think that rocks (Proud nerd, right here), then I don't know what will prove my point.
So don't change, be you. Change only what you want to, and not because someone else thinks that you need to change, or you think that they would like you better. People can see through facades in a second, be authentic! It's wonderful. You're wonderful. Believe it. 
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