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Sunday, November 9, 2014

What I'd Rather Hear Than I'm Beautiful

Last week, or possibly more than a week ago, I was looking through twitter and I came upon this discussion of what a Woman would rather hear from a man than that she's beautiful. So I was thinking about it this morning, and I would be lying if I didn't say that I enjoy hearing that I'm beautiful from a man. But, I would also like to hear a lot of other things. 

I think the thing that is inherently wrong with just wanting to hear that you are beautiful is that you are not your body. You are so much more than your body. And if your body can be counted on to do anything, it can be counted on to change. Someday, I will not be beautiful anymore. At least not in the same way. But, I will always be Rachael. And yes, Rachael is always changing. Hopefully for the better. 

While my physical good looks may decline, beyond my control, changing myself is something that I can control. I can emphasize my strengths, minimize my physical flaws, but they are still there. No amount of work can make me shorter, or the bump on my nose go away, or get rid of the slight webbing on my toes. Nothing can make my hair thicker or my pointer fingers less twisted. Nothing can change that (barring surgery). That is what I was born with. I was born with curly hair that doesn't always cooperate, and eyes that don't see very well despite being a pretty color. There is nothing for me to be proud of in my physical appearance, because I was just lucky. It shouldn't make me more deserving of anyone's love or attention. Yes, this is the world that we live in, based so much on what we see. But even though a man can appreciate what a woman looks like, if that is his defining reason for wanting you, you should definitely drop him like he's hot.

So I would rather hear that I am smart. I would rather hear that I am talented and capable of achieving my goals. I would rather hear that I am faithful, dedicated, and kind. I would rather hear that I am becoming the person that I hope to be, rather than the prettiest girl in the room. 

What would you rather hear? Men included, what would you want to hear from a woman?
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