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Thursday, December 31, 2015

Take Care of You

Today I was on Facebook and I stumbled across this video that had been shared by another blogger. I actually watched the whole thing, even though it's over 6 minutes long.

It was really interesting to hear her talk about how you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. It especially hit home when she talks about how sometimes we don't take care of ourselves and then we expect other people to make us happy. We think that they owe it to us because we have done so much for them. 

I am notoriously bad at that, thinking that other people owe me because I forgot to fill myself up. 

I'm not really sure when this began, I think it was after I started to get some friends (I know that makes it sound like I was a friendless loner, guilty as charged). I was so concerned about making them happy that I worried less about myself. Then my parents got divorced and I took on the role of Mom to my little sister and did my best to take care of my now husbandless mother. I completely lost myself and my own happiness in trying to take care of them. It became this vicious cycle of giving, emptying myself out for them and not getting enough back. 

It has taken me a long time to realize that it was never up to them to make me happy. It was never up to them to give it back to me. I have to take care of myself and be responsible for my own happiness. It's one of those lessons that I think I'll have to keep working on every day until I'm dead (Jada talks about that in there too). 

If you want to watch the full video, I've posted it below! Let me know what you think! 

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