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Wednesday, May 1, 2019

How Affirmations Taught Me to Love My Body Again

It wasn't all that hard for me to embrace my body after I had Everly. While I had some rough patches during pregnancy where I felt more fat than like I had a cute bump. After I gave birth I was in awe of my own body. It managed to make and push out a human. It was feeding that human. Added to the fact that I lost all of my pregnancy weight without trying within a month of having her, it was pretty easy for me to feel good about it. 
Fast forward to one year later and I had a very hard time accepting my body. I was no longer pregnant. I was no longer nursing. My body had no other purpose than to take care of me. It was doing a fine job of that, but... it didn't quite look the way I hoped. The little things I let go of easily while I was nursing, like the tummy rolls of extra skin, and even the few pounds I had gained back (I went down to 10 pounds below my pre-pregnancy weight when I cut out dairy and eggs while I was nursing for two months) started to grate on me. 
I really didn't see the problem until my husband started telling me often to be nicer to myself. Somehow I found all the negative things I saw about myself falling right out of my mouth when he was around. Even as I was saying them, I knew that I was being harsh, but it was a deserved harsh, in my mind at least. 
This went on for probably a month while we were trying to get pregnant before I decided to try affirmations. It's funny to look back now on all the things I have been vocally against in my life that I've ended up coming around to. Affirmations are one of those things. I always thought that they sounded too... well, out there, to really make a difference. But I'd listened to some podcasts that mentioned them, read a few Instagram posts, and decided to try them. I wrote down 14 things, just a list of things that I wanted to believe and change about myself. This is what I came up with.

  • I am a good wife and mother
  • I am smart
  • I am beautiful
  • I have a healthy body capable of doing hard things
  • I am brave
  • I am patient
  • I am a hard worker
  • I am creative
  • I am kind
  • I am a good writer
  • I am a good friend
  • I can influence others for good
  • I will not let failure discourage me
  • I trust in the Savior and His plan for me
Each morning I would get up and I would read those to myself and repeat them in my mind. I've never quite gotten to a point where I don't feel completely stupid saying them out loud, but it worked. In almost no time at all, I stopped criticizing my body whenever I saw it. When things came up throughout the day that made me question one of those affirmations, I repeated it to myself and tried to make the best choice to make that affirmation a reality. 
Affirmations have done so much for me. It's such a simple thing, but one that I really do believe makes a difference. There are plenty of places that you can find pre-written affirmations if you have a hard time choosing your own, but if you'd like to try them I suggest asking yourself who you want to be, and then say that you are those things. Maybe think of things that you are hardest on yourself about and make a positive statement for that. You can have as many or as few as you want. I hope you'll try them. Let me know what you think!

Thanks for reading! I hope this post inspired you to love yourself a little more. 
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