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Wednesday, March 4, 2020

Poems of Motherhood | February 2020



As I went through this month's poems it was interesting to me to see the themes. Things that I didn't notice when I was writing them. Certainly, I knew that I was struggling a little bit with loving my postpartum body, but I didn't realize how many times it had cropped up. Looking at them all together I can see a great yearning to capture the little moments. Writing is like that for me. I write because I don't always quite see the forest through the trees. Looking back at what I've written I can see myself more clearly than the moment when I write it.

2/1/20
For Greyson

I was looking at my phone
Something I try not to do when you and Everly are awake
But I did

Then I looked down at you and you smiled
A big smile
Like you were just waiting for me to look at you

So I put my phone away
Remembered for the hundredth time that it all goes too fast
And soaked up those smiles

2/2/20
For Greyson

At night
When you’re all bundled up 
Hat on your head
Swaddled from the neck down

I try to make sure to touch your skin
To leave my hand on your cheek as I put you in your bassinet
To let you know that the skin you lived in 
is nearby
That you are safe


2/3/20
For Brian

I fell asleep to the silhouette of you
Swinging our baby in his bassinet so he would fall asleep
My heart swelled a little in me
Even as my breathing slowed into sleep
Because I knew that he was safe in your hands
That it was my husband standing there with him

For Greyson

I let you fall asleep in my arms
Watched you settle against me
It’s always a fight to get you down
Usually I make you fight it out on your own

But every once in a while
It’s nice to let you surrender in my arms

For Everly

Today daddy stayed home
Because of the snow
It piled in layers like sedimentary rocks against the screen in the window

You loved it
Chose him over me over and over again
And surprisingly I loved it

I love the bond that you two have forged
From nights up late together
From mornings spent eating oatmeal

It had me praying for more snow days than I ever wished for as a child

2/4/20
For Greyson 

You smiled at me today
In a way that seemed to say
That’s my Momma

It’s little things like that 
That tie you to me
That my arms are the ones that soothe you best
That my face is the one that makes you smile
That you know
Somehow
I am your Momma



2/7/20

For Everly

We said goodbye to Daddy today
Sent him on his first business trip since you’ve been born
He was supposed to go during your nap

I wish you could have seen the way he cried silently 
held onto me in the hallway just outside your door after we put you down
He loves you so much 

We both smiled though as we heard you through the door saying 
Monday 

Monday
Daddy comes home

2/9/20
For Brian

It has been long days without you
Not bad days
But long days

Watching Everly ask after you
To have to tell her “Monday”
Makes me dread anything that might make me have to say something more permanent

Honestly
I fear that almost as much as losing you
For Everly to lose her Daddy
For Greyson to never know what a great daddy you are

So stay with me
Be my partner through this life

I pray it all the time. 


2/10/20

For Greyson

We slept curled together last night. 
Your cold made you lonely
So I pulled you from your bassinet
Placed your head in the crook of my shoulder

And laid awake for awhile
While you slept
Knowing that you felt safe with me there

It’s not the first time
But it still means so much to me
That this skinny little body
Whom I’ve had my share of complaints with
Is home for you

2/11/20

For Everly

Every little thing 

The way you jump with only one foot leaving the ground
The way you say orange juice “Oran goose”
The way you answer every clarifying question with “ok” giving yourself permission when we’re just trying to understand you
Your love of pudding and fruit snacks
The way you can talk to yourself for hours in your crib
The way you hold your arms out for your bear
The way that bright things make you duck your head

All of it
Magic. 

2/12/20
For Greyson

Today you raged against the dying of the light
I couldn’t say that I really minded it
Though my back did

But to hold you
My tiny bundle
And rest my cheek against you cheek
Let my heartbeat against your chest to lull you to sleep

You didn’t sleep
But it was still sweet

Something to remember 

For Brian

Today my heart beat and sank in my chest
It fought against the pull down to my stomach
It felt like each beat weighted it with fear

Tonight you pulled me into your lap for couples prayer 
Whispered so softly that I couldn’t quite hear all the words
But it made me feel safe
To be curled in your lap
To hear you praying for us



2/14/20

For Greyson

Your first Valentines
All these firsts that you’ll never remember 
It’s weird how this part of your life
Is more for me than for you

I’ll remember
Your first smiles
You under the tree in a Moses basket
You falling asleep on my legs while Daddy and I watched a movie tonight

I’ll remember your firsts
When you are remembering my lasts


2/15/20
For Brian

This postpartum time has been especially sweet
Watching you with both our babies
Feeling the way that you love me

It’s like we’re new all over again

I love falling 
Tumbling 
Head over heels
Again and again
With you 


2/16/20

For Greyson 

Today I held you
Looked down at you asleep in my arms
Felt so much for you that I felt the tears start to well up
I almost cried then and there
In front of your Ama and Grandpa
Your Auntie and her friend

It was the moment I had been waiting for 

To say that I hadn’t loved you before would be a lie
To say I hadn’t felt attached to you before would be a lie

But this was a bond moment
One that tied me to you by millions of strings we’ll never see
To you it was just another moment
But to me it was everything 

For Everly

You looked lost 
As I said goodbye to you in nursery
I almost didn’t walk out the door

My mind was all wrapped up in attachment styles
Wondering if me leaving you there was causing some wound you’ll be talking about in therapy someday

I have a feeling I’ll remember that look for a long time
The way your lips were slightly parted
The way your eyes weren’t quite focused on anything
The way your hands were slightly raised and open,
Waiting for something

I left anyway
Even though my heart said ‘no’


2/17/20
For Brian

Both our babies were sleeping
So we went to our bed
Laid on top of the covers and held each other for a few minutes 

I used to come cuddle you every morning
After I woke up
Before work

There’s no time for luxuries like that now
I wake up with Greyson in my arms
And Everly singing in the next room

So it was special
Those moments together

2/19/20
For Greyson

I held you up against my shoulder
Tried to inhale the newborn scent of you
The one everyone is always talking about

Instead I felt the brush of your hair against my cheek
Felt the curl of your hand around my poppy necklace

I can’t smell it
I can’t smell the newness of you 
And part of me breaks at the thought that I’ll never know what that means
To smell the top of my baby’s head and know that this scent is unique to this short time of life

Part of me is glad that I won’t miss it once it’s gone. 


2/20/20

For Everly

This morning you said your new signature phrase
Daddy Work
Daddy goes to work
And you sing for him all day long
Daddy is at work

Today when he picked you up for prayers
You added to your phrase
Work, too?

And it just about broke both daddy and I
To send him away
And keep you here
When you wanted to go

2/21/20

For me

Today I looked down and thought my body ruined
There are more marks this time
More lasting changes it seems

Peace with my body is a treaty I have to remake every day
When shots are fired 
we start over 
again 


2/22/20
For Brian

Today I felt run ragged
Between the diapers
And the spilled milk and cereal
And the children

We watched too much TV 
I spent too long on Instagram 

I wrung myself out over and over and over

Then you came home
I took a bath
Breathed breaths that weren’t centered around the needs of anyone else

You happily let me have that time
I needed it more than I knew. 

2/24/20
For Greyson

I held you while you slept
Every now and then you would wake
Eyes still closed tight
Your bottom lip would push out
The corners of your mouth turn down
Like your heart was fit to break

I told you that you were safe
That I was there
Your Mama

It didn’t seem to help
But I held you anyway

Sometimes motherhood is so helpless

I don’t know what made you look so sad
But I will always be right here behind you
Beside you


2/29/20

For Everly

I got you up from your nap
Held you bundled in my arms
Your small arms wrapped around “bear” and “banket”
I stroked your cheek
You just stayed there
In my arms
Leaning into the strokes while we waited for you to warm up enough from your nap to interact with Grandma who had come to visit 

I could have stayed there all day
Holding you while you’re still small

That’s the hardest about 2
The never getting the endless moments anymore
They have to end now
And it makes me sad


Thanks for reading! I'd love to hear if you are in motherhood, what your season is looking like. Or, if not, what life looks like for you right now.
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